I hope you had a nice Christmas.
I cooked and baked for two days, played at two Masses, and had a beautiful day with my family.
There was one particular moment I experienced with my boys that I wanted to share with you today.
It’s a moment I wish for us during this holiday season and for the days ahead.
We were discussing a particularly deep subject. Dante and Evan were giving their perspectives on it to Blais, who saw it from his unique experience.
At one point, he got a bit frustrated because a) he is the youngest and his brothers have a few years of learning and arguing on him LOL, and b) no one but him had a personal, and emotionally difficult, experience with the topic.
Instead of feeling defensive and allowing his frustration to grow into anger, he asked the other boys to pause and give him a chance to look something up. (I was so proud of him for having the awareness of his emotions and what he needed in order to achieve the desired outcome and get his point across.)
And then the most beautiful – sacred, really – thing happened.
Dante and Evan sat in complete silence and waited several minutes, without saying anything. No one sighed, moved, or tapped their fingers impatiently.
We all held space and allowed Blais to find his words.
What Blais shared next was an important point and it clarified his point of view. He shared something that none of us had thought of.
From this point on, the conversation had a lot more compassion, understanding, and respect.
I sat back humbled and blessed by my kids’ ability to communicate, discuss, and work together (with their differences).
I was also deeply moved by the sacred silence I had witnessed.
It was the kind of silence that we don’t try to fill with our words, our arguments, defenses, and prepared responses. It was the silence that says loud and clear: I see you, I hear you, I respect you. I care about you. You matter. Thank you.
To me, this is what happens on Christmas. The birth of Emmanuel (God with us) puts a pause in humanity’s noise. Not a pause that stops time, but like a pause in music that’s still a PART of the melody.
And if we listen with our mind, heart, and soul we will hear the same message: I see you, I hear you, I respect you. I care about you. You matter. I love you. ️
Let’s extend that gift of pausing and allowing space to those who aren’t as prepared in their arguments. Let’s listen to each other as we wrap up 2020 and step into whatever lies ahead!
Here is the song “Tennessee Christmas” we released on Christmas Day! I hope you like it 🙂
She has many passions and is dedicated to helping others while also creating an enriched life for herself and her three sons.
When Tajci is not on the road performing gigs, she volunteers with local organizations dear to her heart, spends time with loved ones (often involving music!), and collaborates with other artists to bring creative projects to life.
Tajci’s most recent projects include a meditation CD, an annual retreat & sea cruise in Croatia (that she organizes and hosts), and a multimedia CD/book (Un)Broken: Songs My Father Taught Me.
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