- covering up the ‘shabby parts’ of our lives
- shame as one of the main reasons we hide our fears, brokenness, imperfections
- empathy as the antidote to shame and as a catalyst to more connection and healing.
“I wore my white slacks, Steward Witzman platform heels, black tank top, tiny Gap sweater, and a black necklace. I had my hair pulled back in a bun. I felt great walking into the waiting room – somehow, every time I go to see Cheryl, I make a point of dressing up. Perhaps I didn’t want to look shabby, since we are talking about the shabby parts of my life…”– (un)Broken: Songs My Father Taught Me, Page 28
Our brokenness can look so unacceptable to us that
we become afraid to show up as who we are.
“Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is “I am bad.” Guilt is “I did something bad.” Guilt: I’m sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I’m sorry. I am a mistake.”– From her TED talk “Listening to Shame”(I highly recommend watching her talks and reading her books.)
So… What is your story about the “shabby parts” of your life?
Tatiana “Tajci” Cameron is an award-winning music artist, published author, inspirational speaker, and certified transformational and spiritual life coach.
She has many passions and is dedicated to helping others while also creating an enriched life for herself and her three sons.
When Tajci is not on the road performing gigs, she volunteers with local organizations dear to her heart, spends time with loved ones (often involving music!), and collaborates with other artists to bring creative projects to life.
Tajci’s most recent projects include a meditation CD, an annual retreat & sea cruise in Croatia (that she organizes and hosts), and a multimedia CD/book (Un)Broken: Songs My Father Taught Me.
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